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From a feminist perspective, we can look at the way in which our society is structured patriarchally to see why society is so lovelost; a woman’s affections are viewed as whimsical and fanciful, useless and not worthy of being paid attention to; a man’s affections are taboo. A man should be strong and powerful, invulnerable, while the woman plays as his weaker, foolish counterpart. In of itself, this keeps men from expressing any kind of sentiment towards women half the time out of their role as being so-called “protectors“ and “strong men“. If they did at all, this might imply they were weak, or what emotion they might show could be condescending in of itself. It almost seems as if this has a backwards effect on women in general--rather than being sensibly emotional, many women have been taught and trained to be hyperemotional and fickle, and others have trained themselves to be more stoic and “strong” as men. Neither option works; both are ingenuous, false, and emotionally inhibiting. Men are also practically forbidden to display affection for another man, even in a platonic way--we need only mention with some scathe the phrase “no homo”. As we can see, the issue of a universal love does not just span into classist issues-it also reaches deep into the foundations of our view of gender, gender roles, and sexuality. Our sexuality, for that matter, is extremely constricted and demonized, in particular by the church--and almost wholly directed at women. Woman, Eve in the garden of Eden who caused our fall from grace, is portrayed as the bringer of sin and evil. Sex itself is viewed as a vile, almost unholy thing rather than something that is natural but necessary to be understood. As a result, this leaves many, many women with issues of their own sexual identity that they have never mentioned to other people, and never explored on their own, as in the countless stories detailed in The Vagina Monologues. This even has potential to spread to men who begin to feel bad about sex, or guilty for desiring it--but not nearly as much as women. While it may seem that sexuality is a far reach from any idea of universal love, sexuality is deeply rooted in our feelings of self-worth, acceptance, and understanding--while we are guilty about our own gender, sex, or identity of either, we most likely judge others by theirs, and our lives themselves become guilty and confused. As I say in my essay regarding feminist criticism, the sooner we can work “to completely disassemble patriarchy as an overwhelming presence in society . . . to completely deny the binary system of male-female”, the quicker we can get to an enlightened state of existence.
However, I sincerely feel that the issue goes deeper than any of what I have discussed--that these are merely the reciprocations of a basic need, basic incisive feeling of lack in our lives, at which point we can turn to psychoanalytical criticism to examine this idea. If we take a moment to examine the idea of romantic love, we find that often times this love is inextricably linked to hurt. Being hurt by disappointment, our expectations, our enemies and our friends, our lovers, circumstances beyond our control--nobody wants that. Nobody wants to be hurt. So, we do our best to avoid it in all of its forms. I find that more than anything, we as a people have developed a cultural aversion to pain, and most of this shows itself through pessimism and mistrust of the world around us. Speaking historically, after the Vietnam war, people became disillusioned. Rising amounts of advertising, legislative insanity, and misrepresented politicians have made most Americans even more cynical and unmotivated--we lack any kind of culture aside from a blind patriotism to an ideal of free speech that we don’t fully utilize or support in reality. We are, on a large scale, apathetic. We’ve all been hurt by the external, big reality around us, and we’ve all been hurt by our own experiences in life. Of course, the way in which we respond to this depends on the level of hurt and our social, political, and economic climate. For instance, as we can see in the book Palestine, the Palestinians have been pushed and pushed to the point of violent reaction. In America, ours is more subtle; even if we might say that it’s nothing compared to other conflicts in the world, at our stage of development, it’s an incredibly important and relevant topic.
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